Did you ever get so angry with your significant other, you just blew up? Bigger than you ever thought that you could? You try to stop yourself but you just keep going and going with no self control...How do you kiss and make up when there are issues that need to be dealt with? Especially when you became such an unbelievable bitch...anything you say can be held against you because of your last nights behavior?
Marriage, it's work. I want to kiss and make up, but there was an underlying issue that caused me to blow up. I love my hubby dearly, and I don't want to fight. It doesn't really solve anything, but I don't want to go first in the making up either. What a shitter of a mess!
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Sometimes we say hurtful things when angered, and we don't really mean them. Us guys are somewhat self-centered prideful animals, and aren't always readily the first to apologize. You gals are usually quicker to exhibit maturity, so the answer is clear. Apologize.
I'm betting that he will apologize, too, and you two can get back to the things that really matter.
I have such a temper sometimes, too. I think it happens to alot of people. I also hate being the first to enter the 'apology state' of the deal!
Maybe give yourself another day to chill out.
I admitted that I should not have blown up the way I did. But I really feel I have nothing to apologize for. Maybe that is the taurus in me.
Maybe that's your answer then, apologize for blowing up the way you did (while NOT apologizing for the reason for the blow) That could get the ball rolling, and then HE can apologize for whatever he did to make you blow...?
It takes two (or more) to rumble, and two (or more) to make up.
Sit down with him and go over the issue that has you mad and that caused you to blow up. Start off by apologizing for blowing up, then calmly get to the real issues at hand.
Don't expect an apology from him, although if you get one that is great, but work on the issue at hand instead.
Only 3 years into the marriage and I don't even expect flowers. I don't understand why men change... I try to upkeep him, letting him know how special he is..but I need upkeep too.
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