I get this email today:
I know i told you i would be her godmother, and i remembered you asking me awhile ago when you were working on your will if anything happened to you guys would we want the children, i just dont feel comfortable saying yes. i hope you arent offended. I just am not comfortable with it. Im sorry.
So I had asked Kelly, my husbands sister, to be the Godmother of our daughter, Emma. The role of a Godparent is to pray for the child. Guide the child and parents spiritually, to help the parents raise the child in faith. In many cases, parents feel that the connection between the child and Godparent, so important, they choose the Godparent to raise their children should anything happen to us if we pass.
Michael and I have not set our wills yet and were considering his sister and my sister for the role of raising our children in case of our unexpected deaths. I love my sister dearly, and I know that she would raise our children like her own, but she and I differ religously. So we were contimplating Kelly, who has our same parenting style and religous beliefs. for the most part.
I am in the middle of planning Emma's baptism and she sends me that email.
This is how I responded.
"An email is a very impersonal way to respond to such a personal request. Kelly, we were discussing our children, the most important things in our lives. I wish you would have come to me or Michael about it.
But I guess you can’t help the way you feel about it, so I will respect your wishes"
I mean we aren't talking about where our dogs are going to go, or who will take care of the fish!!!! I just sat behind my computer and cried.