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My mother always used that phrase right before a good ole' spanking on my bare bottom. I swore that I would never spank or hit my children. Hubby and I agree on that aspect of parenting. But there is an exception to the rule. If our child/children to something to put themselves in danger, we will spank. It's kinda like a danger=pain association. Reverse Psychology. SOOOO...this weekend, my two year old kept pushing our buttons. He doesn' get spanked so there is nothing to keep him from doing whatever he wants. He has this new thing about climbing on the countertops and getting into the cabinets. No matter what we try, he keeps climbing. I am scared that he will fall off or burn himself or cut himself. So for the first time I spanked him. I cried for almost an hour after...I mean I literally sat there on the floor next to him while he cried in time out and cried next to him. I tried holding it in, but the tears wouldn't hold back. After awhile he came up to me to tell me it was alright...even though HE got spanked.
So did it work?????
No, he was right back up on the counter 10 minutes later. But I will tell you this...I never knew the meaning of that phrase before, or thought it was bullshit. I won't do that again!
And for all you crazy nuts out there....no I don't beat my kid so get off the phone to social services!
After thinking about posting this topic, I wondered how many thought that it was okay to spank. When is it okay, how often and is it okay to spank over things like school grades? Do you see a woman spank her kid in the market and automatically cry abuse? I used to get spanked over everything. My mom had an oversized paint stick on the fridge that I would have to go get and bring to her in order to get my spanking. I am not saying that I was physically abused, by far, but sometimes the punishment was a little excessive & I was spanked at far too late of an age. I would really like to hear comments.